stephanie wrote:Apparently you've never come across someone like, say, Ted Leo? There's a whole fucking lot of sincere, earnest (thx Meg) folks armed only with guitars and strong voices who could give a damn if they get laid or a sense of validation by rocking out.
Moreover, I think it's simple, overwhelming self-importance, trying to cushion one's own intense vanity by implying ALL musicians are "terribly narcissitic [sic]."
actually i would say nearly all of the musicians (and artists of other varieties as well) i've come across are 'sincere, earnest folks', and a whole lot of them don't care much about getting laid (strangely enough), but i will stand by my claim that they're all pretty self-important. (then again, i find most sincere, earnest people to be pretty self-important, regardless of what it is they're being sincere and earnest about.)
but there are levels, obviously. there are people who really don't give a damn about anything but the 'lifestyle', and there are people who DO give a damn about lots of things and still want to play in bands. and there are people who just can't *not* play music, and would be doing it alone in their living rooms for the rest of their lives even if they never once got up on stage or got any positive feedback from anybody. and a million other things along the continuum.
BUT, in my experience, and i've been pretty deeply immersed in several different music cultures (classical, folk/acoustic, rockabilly/honkytonk, indie-rock), people don't tend to put forth the effort to 'start a band' and go out and get gigs and record albums and tour without SOME type of very intense psychological need driving them.
i'm not going to pretend for one moment that i'm not vain, and don't have my own issues (one of which was that i was feeling extremely pouty yesterday about various and assorted band-related problems i was having to deal with), or that i don't on occasion make sweeping generalizations i have no business making. and certainly i throw around strong language a little too liberally from time to time.
and i understand the desire to share things that excite you with other people, in hopes that it will excite them as well, meg. that's what friendships are all about. all i'm saying is that it takes an entirely different level of desire to want to share things with thousands of total strangers.
honestly, i'm not attacking anybody, or passing judgement on them. and i'm certainly not trying to 'cushion' my own 'intense vanity'. i really don't see any of this as being particularly *good* or *bad*; it's just what i see.